behaviour change

How to be Happier

I’ve been meaning to write this post for a while as I’m aware that my happiness levels have increased quite dramatically over the last six months. What’s changed? Well in a nutshell, it’s me. In April 2021 I began a program with the purpose of improving mental fitness. It was a 6 week program which included daily exercises, videos and a monthly live coaching program. which assesses then builds upon your Positive Intelligence Quotient (PQ).

As a Health Coach I was highly skeptical at first as I already had fitness and meditation routines in place. My sleep patterns were pretty good, but this is an area that I’ve struggled with in the past. I’m no stranger to the devastating impact of being woken up by whirling thoughts at 3 am which would stay with me for hours and took me back to the sleep deprivation of being a new Mum.

I already had an awareness of the impact of negative thoughts from my study of Dr David Hawkins work. For example, 80% of your thousands of daily thoughts are negative, and 95% of these are circling around subconsciously on repeat. In the past this supported our survival as it was helpful to remember that when your friend Brian ate those berries he had diarrhoea for a week, or that that bear asleep in a cave didn’t appreciate being woken up. These evolutionary traits are slow to catch up with how we’re actually living today.

PQ Program

The PQ program helped me by specifically identifying my personal saboteurs that were having a negative impact on my life. Once I started to recognise them I could see that they were showing up everywhere. I could look back on decisions that I’d made with a knowing Aha! It could easily have become overwhelming, however the PQ program teaches you how to fundamentally change your response rather than continue with the default decision-making that you have in place. In my case that default process had been reliably used for the last 40+ years. Incredibly you can shift this in as little as 6 weeks.

The game changer is having the ability to shift your personal saboteurs which means that you stop sabotaging your own life.

What changes did I make?

My diet and exercise program both received an upgrade, my sleep improved. However the biggest change for me was stopping drinking alcohol. I knew that it wasn’t good for me, and drinking even one glass of wine would make me feel unwell in the morning. My body was definitely sending me signs that alcohol didn’t suit me. Despite knowing all of this, and even being aware of it for years I continued to drink socially. After a couple of months of the PQ program I was able to say ‘Enough’ and was able to stop. It was as if my brain was finally able to catch up and listen to the signals that my body had been sending. I’m four months in and am feeling fantastic, plus I keep receiving compliments on how ‘healthy’ I look.

How can improving mental fitness help you?

Let’s see! What are your goals? What do you have a niggly feeling that you want to change? What do you regularly do that annoys you, and you wish that you could stop? The brilliant thing about this program is that you bring the goals that you’ve had in the back of your mind for a while, but have struggled to achieve. Upgrading your mental fitness has the versatility to be applied to ANY area of your life. For example, your weight, exercise, sleep, relationships, decision-making ability, stress management, being a better parent, driving (!). The PQ program adapts to fit your unique needs, your particular saboteurs and your goals. If you’re interested to find out more here’s a link to the Saboteur assessment. https://practicalhealthcoach.uk/mental-fitness/

I always have new group programs starting (videos are out on a Saturday, live group coaching is on a Monday), please get in touch if you’d like to find out how to be happier. As a board certified Health Coach I’m delighted to partner with Shirzad Chamine and bring his life-changing ideas to you, here’s his TEDx talk if you’d like to know more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-zdJ1ubvoXs